Ok well for all of those people who feel this blog is offensive or too technical for people dealing with "relationships" and feel "I have no right to dictate how a relationship should commence" then maybe you need to read very carefully. Thought-out the years of communicatively dealing with an abundant amount of relationships [other's people's relationship's I've aided or been through (not technically meaning I've "dated them" but rather through verbal or physical association)] (over at least 60 through-out a 5 year period…literally). I've noticed a lot of things that people are missing and not working on, and with a lot of indicative things that I've seen amongst many different relationships I witness, exchanging thoughts through auditory conversations, or even just hearing both sides from a female and male's perspective upon "how a relationship could, should, or will last". Now let's start with our history…

If you don't know already, (even with religious beliefs and child-hood upbringings) our past affects who we are today (in some way negatively or positively whether you choose to disagree or not). And because of our past, we have evolved into who are today (as if we never had a past…how would we know what the present would be like to conclude to a predictable future?). Some claim it starts in the HOME…I am here to agree. BUT since nowadays (I would say it's gotten very dreadful starting within the late 90's to the present of 07) relationships have been token seriously and concluded to be a joke. We use to (and some still do) ask our parents "Hey…why do relationships happen the way they do?" Now in my opinion some can present a very insufficient claim and say "S**** happens" or "These things come and go" or "Relationships cannot be predicted". Now if you understood what "predict" means; [to declare or tell in advance; prophesy; foretell]...handling different "relationship problems" with the certain tactful and strategic ways of going about things (depending upon the person's will to help adjust to fix things including both partners effort you both agreed to exert equally) you technically can have a higher percentage of a "prediction" whether or not if your relationship will last or not. For example: Lets say someone has been dating (boyfriend and girlfriend) for about 6 months, (depending on how much quality and time you put into learning and understanding who they are), the [male] begins to do things that you aren't use to [i.e. disrespecting you too much, not calling or informing you as much about your lifestyle, making up excuses (that depends on the excuse whether if it is valid enough to belief and the trust upon you too make), gets a jealous a bit too much (which is technically bad, I will explain later…)], these are what we call "warning signs" of a relationship. Some people will ignore them only to assume "its normal" to feel that way or to be going through these things while currently in a relationship. O really? Says who? Do you mean from who've you talking to… they have told you…ITS NORMAL…to accept a lot of mischievous behavior after a relationship has started because…well…that's just how relationships are? And for those who are thinking of the word "insecurity" getting put into place…lets get to that definition; [lack of confidence or assurance; self-doubt].....[in other words]...Basically...if I was to re-evaluate my relationship because of certain actions my partner commits that I am not aware of, nor does the partner talks to me about why he/she is doing these actions and talk to my partner about the actions and why they are being done [in which wasn't going on during the beginning of our relationship, nor was discussed whether or not if these actions were going to start if a certain event or action was going to process soon]….that makes me show a [lack of confidence or a self-doubting] notion?...[so afterwards]...If negative things were happening because of my partners actions, reflecting upon our relationship…and I wanted to address him/her about the issue…and with assurance that I put enough faith in my partners doings and efforts to hold this relationship together [as both agreed since it is a "relationship [a connection, association, or involvement]" (note: lets not "make up" our own definition and defeat the purpose of the word), with the aid of trust [knowing who've you dated (or have a strong intention of trust established between the two)]…a lack of "confidence [full trust; belief in the powers, trustworthiness, or reliability of a person or thing]" isn't being presented when you are trying to be "assertive [A person communicates assertively by not being afraid to speak his or her mind or trying to influence others, but doing so in a way that respects the personal boundaries of others. They are also willing to defend themselves against aggressive invasions]" about the relationship and how it's altering in a certain direction that isn't seen by the other partner but by yourself (since their "actions" are neglecting the quality of the relationship at hand)…in which shows no form of "insecurity" being shown by yourself…Thank you. So for one to actually tell another "These things cannot be predicted"…that statement shows a lot of false but some truth behind certain actions you commence upon one another during your relationship.

As we remember the past…and advice and guidance we take from (usually the older crowd [expecting wiser intel]...then resulting to our peers [usually getting information we learned from the older crowd]) we seem to forget the era and generation (us and teens and mid 20-year olds) live in (oppose to the "older" type of people 30's and up) and we seem to not understand how the "morals [of, pertaining to, or concerned with the principles or rules of right conduct or the distinction between right and wrong;]" have changed over the years. We have to snap out of this sub-conscious mind of always thinking "Since they've been through it, they evidently know more"…which is one of the most overused and unreliable statements and beliefs people have today. YOU MUST UNDERSTAND…YOU ARE NOT THEM…NOR LIVED THEIR LIFE OR EVEN EXPIRENCED THEIR LIFESTYLE AS WHEN THEY WERE DOING WHAT THEY WERE DOING…so to conclude they "know what their talking about" for those that don't know…THEY ARE GIVING YOU ADVICE UPON WHAT THEY WOULD DO OR HAVE DONE…which ISNT A LAW AMONGST THE GOVERNMENT THAT REQUIRES YOU TO DO IT [nor a substantial enough of evidence to actually give a logical testimony] …so technically "we don't have to listen" to what's being mentioned toward us. We have to escape from this one-track simplistic (mind) connected to a central-system based belief!!! [It's a MUST if your willing to take control of YOUR RELATIONSHIP...not other's (biased and illogical beliefs)]. But I never ever mentioned "listening" to "them" was a bad idea, but to only reflect the question "why..." upon "their belief and advice" and those only truly believing "they know what their talking about…because they've gone through it", will only result to a continuous amount of mistakes which is why the saying "history repeats itself" still lives today.

Here is a perfect example of this argumentative notion; Lets say I'm having a issue with my girlfriend and she starts to lie to me for a certain reason [after I catch her numerous times], and I ask my dad and mother what could be going on, and they say "Well son…you know how women are and..."…STOP AND STOP…why did he mention "women"…why not "people" [people lie...not just "women"]…is he referring to all "women" or just "some women"…nor does he understand that his history of his belief about with "women" may not be or if any influential to my problem, since his first thought was present about "women" and not about "relationships", which concludes me to be mislead upon his belief and how it will affect mines about "women" and how to handle "women" since [according to his past and THEIR PAST ONLY] he has presented his irrational but not sensible advice to a person about a problem about their "women" and not necessarily about their "relationship problem" (which is why YOUR PAST affects the way you feel about a certain gender WITHIN THE PRESENT…) [and why most problems aren't fixed for the better (long run)]…now if you must understand, since maybe MOM or DAD may have different ideas on how to handle this issue about your woman "lying to you"…its relevant to why confusion is brought upon today's understanding of how women and men work or communicate [verbally, physically, or emotionally]…while in a relationship. We've listening to a lot of irrational thinking and answers which has caused us to believe how a certain "gender" is "suppose or has been acting" according to [whom ever you've asked or have gotten advice from (usually from the deep-rooted issue started from the older folks)], even though with guidance, since WE DO need upon our lives and things to help us learn how to go through these certain events [i.e. relationships]…you shouldn't forget but noticed how I said "irrational [not in accordance with reason; utterly illogical]" answers and not "sensible [having, using, or showing good sense or sound judgment]" are being proposed.

So I will now begin a form of blogs answering about 90% of your questions about the "why", "what", and "how" of relationships upon [my opinion and judgments dealing with my experiences, but not technically dictating what you should do or how should you do it, but giving you a "eye opener" and better and more efficient insights upon your confusion or disoriented beliefs upon love and relationships], and hopefully you can learn different tactics and strategic ways on handling your relationship to better both of your equally trustful notions upon one another. But first...realize...the HISTORY [of what not and how to believe in your relationship]...